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How do you know he/she is the ONE???



Many people are baffled by the idea of "arranged marriages".

"How do you know he/she is the one from a couple of meetings you've had?", they ask me.

'Mirror mirror on the wall who is my knight in shinning armour????  How am I supposed to know???  I'm still human last time I checked!!


That's when you wish some kind of magic existed in this world. Or time travel was actually possible - so you could take a sneak peek and see the "ONE" who is destined to bring you happiness, fulfillment and every other emotion, words associated with marriage bring.

Anyway here's my thought. I think everyone has some idea of what his/her partner should be like. ( This is a pre- requisite for people who are thinking of arranged marriages, in case ur thinking WTF!!)


If its any consolation.......you have to meet a few people before you decide he or she is the one for you. Why???? Well I think, everytime you meet a person, you learn something new about life, people, personalities, way of living, etc.
And then the more people you meet, the more you realize what it is that you would or would not appreciate in your partner . It helps you form a clear image of the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. So when the 'right' person comes along, the image formed in your head is crystal clear, you know for sure he/she is the one for you. That's my hypothesis.

Anyway, this post is dedicated to a silly friend of mine(source of my inspiration for this post) who was disappointed with his first meeting with the first girl he met. ;) Since advice is free, here goes - Every person you meet may or may not be the 'right' one for you.....for those who aren't, they've helped you find the person who is THE 'one' for you!! God bless them all and you keep smiling because someones waiting to fall in love with it someday!!



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  1. ManishJuly 3, 2011 at 12:55 PM

    Hey Sheen,

    Liked ur blog, but I have one question...Let's say you meet four people and after those meetings you know what you don't want...and then you meet the fifth person who completely fulfills yours don't s criteria but has nothing to offer in ur do's list....then is that the right one for you

    Manish

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  2. LizJuly 3, 2011 at 1:17 PM

    Hey Manish,

    Firstly thank you so much!!

    Seondly, good question!

    Well in my opinion, if the fifth person I meet qualifies for the don'ts criteria but has nothing to offer in the do's criteria I think that person may not be the right one for me. Because something from the do's list is what completes the picture of the right person in the first place or would make me fall head over heels for him.

    For eg: Say I want my husband to be well-mannered, outgoing and have a sense of humour.

    I don't want him to be a miser, show-off, smoker.

    The fifth person qualifies for the don'ts list but is also quiet, reserved and serious and has nothing from the 'do list' that I like.

    Would I consider him? I don't think so. The fact that he's quiet, reserved or serious is not something to be looked down upon, its just that I would prefer someone whos is outgoing, funny and well-mannered and that now "quiet, reserved,serious" becomes a few more parameters I would add to the 'don't list'.

    These are my thoughts...I could be wrong..but I'll let time be the judge :)

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  3. LizJuly 3, 2011 at 1:43 PM

    NOTE:

    All said and done, please understand that you cannot have everything you want in life the way you want it. Compromises (when it comes to marriage) are important not for WHEN you make the decision but for after you've MADE the decision. So remember to be content with what(ever) you get after you've wanted it :P

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  4. Maddest MindJuly 29, 2011 at 12:21 PM

    I just got done with my 1st interview :)

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  5. LizJuly 29, 2011 at 10:22 PM

    Well Maddest mind...I hope that smiley means it went well!! Good luck!!!:)

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